Are you living life? Or is life living you? Are you just existing? As Bob Marley says…
Love the life you live. Live the life you love.
So you ask…. how do you know when it’s time for you to move on? The short answer is, you just know. But if you’re like many there is this tug of war of thoughts that goes back and forth in your head. These thoughts can originate from truths and from lies. So how do you crush the lies with the truth? Here are 5 tips to help you figure out which are actually truths and which are lies.
You keep making tons of excuses on why you can’t pursue your dreams but you keep dreaming about them and you always have an excuse. For example, maybe you’re feeling too old now. You have a family to take care of so you keep saying now it’s not the time. Or you start to doubt yourself. Or believe no one would purchase a service or product from you, or no one would take your advice.
You may be older than what you prefer to be to start something new or to follow your dreams, but do it or you’ll spend the rest of your life bitter, unhappy, or even resentful. Obviously, you have to pay bills to keep a roof over your head, food in your mouth, essential clothes on your back, and may have to provide for dependents. But figure out a way to cut back. That means, stop shopping, buying Starbucks, or eating out. Yes, I said it… STOP BUYING STARBUCKS (sorry Starbucks)... or at least cut back so you can make your dream… what your purpose in a life, a reality! And for those who may even have dependents. That’s okay. Think about what you are passing down to them. Do you want them to be in the same situation as you are? Make it happen! Or just maybe, you are simply afraid?
Do you know that Colonel Sanders’ (founder of KFC) father died when he was 5 years old? So it forced him to begin taking care of his younger siblings at a young age, which meant even cooking for them. He had many jobs in many different professions. He was 40 when he ran a popular Kentucky service station that also served food. He was 62 years old with a $105 social security check when he began to pitch his chicken recipe. 1009 individuals turned him down and finally, one restaurant gave him a chance. He increased their revenue by 75%. Just a thought, what if he would have started sooner? Just what if? Do you really want to live the rest of your life, saying what if?
My aunt Olivia once told me…
“You don’t always get to decide what deck of cards you get dealt, but you do get to decide which cards to play. And if you get dealt a bad hand, just play again.”
And I say, you will get dealt another hand. So….
“Embrace the journey, never give up, and have fun! Life is truly what you make of it!”
Are you asking yourself if this is all that is out there? Midlife, many ask… “Is this all there is, I feel like I’m missing something.” If you’re like me, it was before midlife. But if you’re always dreaming about something, it just might be time to explore it. Somehow we grew up in a world where making mistakes or not knowing exactly what you want to do is a crime. Trust me when I say, it’s the total opposite! It’s more rewarding then you can ever imagine. I heard someone once say they would sit at the dinner table with their kids and ask them constantly, how did they fail today. When I heard that, it blew my mind! Then it clicked! Failure isn’t bad. In reality, it meant, you tried something different, you stepped out of your comfort zone, you grew! Yeah, you may need to make some changes but kudos for you for at least taking action and trying! Lastly, if you are feeling undervalued, hating your work or feeling less satisfying, and feel like you are being pulled towards something, then you might want to step out on faith. Just imagine if the Colonel would have pursued his dreams sooner? Don’t let the anticipation, regret, or fear stop you.
At midlife, many ask “Is this all there is?” If you’re always dreaming about that “thing” then it might be time to explore it. There may be negatives that push you out of your career — being undervalued, hating your work — but there is also a pull towards something else, something greater. If there’s something out there you’ll regret never exploring, it’s time to seriously think about it.
It’s time to move on if you find yourself feeling that you are not operating at your fullest potential and that your life is passing you by. However, if you are indifferent to your job, then it’s time to reinvigorate your passions to find a way to marry what you have to do and what you want to do. It will most definitely take time, effort, and execution of a sound strategy to make the transition a reality but it can happen! Seriously, if it no longer brings you joy, and you often find yourself thinking about making a change then it may be time to make a transition. Transition doesn’t always mean completely leaving the field. It may mean making the appropriate adjustments that bring you more satisfaction. Truth is, those who enjoy their careers don’t dwell on the fact that it is work. They enjoy the challenge it brings and you are satisfied to a point where most days it doesn’t feel like work. I always use the 80/20 rule. If you enjoy 80% of what you do (obviously more the better), know that you are living the life and loving the life you live!
Nope. No time for family or loved ones. You don’t want anyone to talk to you at all. Think about it. When you love what you do, you find yourself always wanting to chat about it. I mean, sometimes people have to tell you to shut up. Some may even be irritated because you always seem so happy. But guess what? Don’t down that
It’s very rare to find someone who loves their career 100% of the time. But you should love it the majority of the time. If the scale begins to tip, then it might be time you look somewhere else. At the end of the day, realize that you get to decide what type of life you have. So be BOLD, CLAIM IT and back it up with ACTIONs! You got this!!! Now make it happen!